The traditional “Dinner and a Movie” may be the go-to first date for many couples, but is it always the best way to get to know someone? Dinners at fancy restaurants can carry a lot of pressure for constant conversation, while movies inside a crowded theater allow for none.
Dylan and Sawyer’s first date involved bungee jumping. Talk about pressure (and fear of dying!) While I don’t suggest going to that extreme with your new crush, I wanted to poll the characters from Silver Heart and find out their suggestions for date ideas that are both fun and out of the box. They came up with a variety of unique dates that can help reduce some of those first-date jitters.
Without further ado, here are they suggestions.
*Cue Law and Order sound effect.*
Break a Sweat. Preferably Outdoors.
Okay, I may have gone a little overboard with that bungee jumping idea, but I think we’d all agree that after managing to convince Silver that I wasn’t crazy (or trying to kill her), the date ended up being one for the books.
The bottom line is that I’d much rather do something active with a girl than sit in a dark movie theater. Those of you going to the movies because you think it will be a good place to hook up need to get more creative.
*See Sawyer’s snowboarding lesson date for inspiration.*
Getting sweaty and dirty before you even get to first base is a great way to get to know someone—and quite the tease. There’s nothing hotter than a girl who can enjoy a sporty, outdoor activity. She doesn’t have to be an Olympic athlete or anything...just up for having fun. The memories I’ve made with Silver while teaching her to snowboard beat out any other memories I’ve made on the slopes—including winning X-Games medals. Hell, I didn’t even mind when she'd accidentally busted my lip.
My favorite outdoor date ideas involve: snowboarding, hiking, ice skating, biking, rock climbing, as well any kind of “contact sport” like football or basketball. Maybe even check out an amusement park. Or why not join a city-wide urban adventure competition where your body and wits are tested during fun activities. What better way to find out whether or not your date is a team player, right?
Sharing is Caring
I sometimes have trouble sharing pieces of myself with people I don’t know well. Sawyer and I grew up together, so he has always known about the things that are most important to me, like my photography. Even though we’re both very different, I feel that he’s able to share in my interests with ease. But maybe that’s just what happens when you meet someone who is perfect for you.
I’ve had some really bad dates in the past where dragging out conversation from a guy was like pulling nails. It’s even worse when you’re sitting face-to-face in a restaurant, listening to crickets chirp. Well, hopefully there aren’t any real crickets jumping around your restaurant, but you know what I mean. For me—though Maddie may disagree—being able to communicate with someone is the key to building chemistry.
My suggestion for a unique, fun date idea that is sure to spark a lot of conversation would be to indulge in a shared pastime or passion with your date: like an art exhibit, concert, event, or even a fair. Even if you don’t end up liking the band or hate the art installation, at least it provides you with a shared experience and an opportunity to talk about it in real time. Who knows, maybe you’ll both discover a new favorite indie artist, or a shared dislike for a certain pretentious exhibition.
What about taking things a step father and going on a charitable date that involves helping make someone else’s day a little better while learning about each other? You can volunteer at a soup kitchen or an animal shelter. Many animal shelters are open to having the public help out, and would love to have volunteers come and spend the afternoon playing with the animals. It’s a low-cost date idea, and can really open your mind, eyes, and heart—both to your date’s personality and the world in general.
Dine and Dash
Maddie Evans is Dylan’s best friend, one of the most fun-loving characters I’ve ever had the pleasure of writing. Leave it to Maddie to spice up “boring dining”. I just hope she sticks to the rules and doesn’t turn this into a sex column. Take it away, Mads!
Don’t look so terrified, I’m not talking about skipping out on your bill! My version of “dining and dashing” is to pick some of your favorite restaurants or hotspots you and your date have always wanted to try out and got to all of them! Yeah, you heard right...Every. Single. One.
Start off with an appetizer at one place, get the main course somewhere else, move to a different restaurant for dessert, and finally finish off with drinks at that hot new bar you wanted to check out. If things go well…that won’t be the end of your night.
Instead of the usual, boring three-course meal at the same old boring restaurant, this serves to spice things up and keep you on the move. I’m sure Adam is going to talk about the medical benefits of digesting your food and all that boring stuff, but for me, it’s all about fun. And this kind of dining is fun!
You can keep it all in the same family of restaurants: for example Italian or Japanese, or mix and match. Maybe you love spicy, sexy, hot Mexican…uhh…food and have a place in mind for the main course. Perhaps your partner is in the know about the best crepes place that has a wide variety of whipped cream that would be perfect for…
*Stay on track, Maddie.*
You can control the price—you don’t have to spend a lot of money or go to fancy restaurants for this to be exciting and adventurous. Maybe even decide on a budget and see what kind of cute places you can find that won’t burn a hole in your pocket. Or be frugal about the first three courses and splurge on the drinks at an upscale martini bar you've always wanted to check out.
This is also fun because you can take public transit instead of driving from place to place, which will give you a lot of face-to-face time and opportunity for conversation. But there’s no pressure for constant eye-contact like there would be if you were sitting at one place for two whole hours. Not to mention, it takes the heat away from “who is going to pay”? You can offer to pay for one meal, your date for the next, and so on…
You can learn a lot about each other this way, and you may also learn about the area you live in. Perfect for new couples, but also a way to spice things up for couples that have been together for a long time and need something different. Thought for that, I have some other suggestions that could work just as well, but would involve doing things with food that I was forbidden from talking about on this blog...
*Mind out of the gutter and back on the restaurants.*
Hope you enjoyed this hot date suggestion! Go out there and have some mouthwatering fun. You’ll have plenty of time to stay in after if this guy/girl turns out to be a keeper! ;)
Play Teacher. Or Student.
If you’ve met Dylan’s brother Adam, then you know that he’s all about his education. So it’s no surprise that his hot date ideas center on learning! Alright, Adam, the floor is yours.
Just because you’re on a date, doesn’t mean that you can’t learn something. Fun, educational dates are all the rage lately.
You can decide whether you and your partner both want to explore something you’re novices at, or go on a date where one of you is the expert and plays teacher to the other. But it’s not just about learning a new skill. This kind of date brings you closer, because you’re sharing your passions and interests with each other.
Maybe your date is artistic, so suggest going to a paint lounge where you can create paintings, while indulging in drinks. Or try out improv class or take bartending lessons. They even offer date-oriented DJ and cross-fit courses, depending on your interest and how high-intensity you want the activity to be.
What would I do with a girl? Good question. I’m a terrible cook. Growing up in a very traditional family, my mother never really placed much value on teaching me how to do many things she deemed “girly”. In turn, I’ve been living off pre-made food and takeout for most of my undergraduate years. Now that I’m in medical school, it’s even harder to find time to graduate from making scrambled eggs every morning and ordering Chinese every night. So I guess it would be kind of fun to take a cooking class with a girl. Either we can both learn to make a dish or she can play teacher if she’s a foodie. Maybe I’ll learn to make a proper breakfast. Who knows, it might come in handy…
Now that you’ve heard from my gang from Silver Heart, I want to hear from YOU! Which of these date ideas would you like to try? Or have you already tried some of them? How did it go? Do you have your own suggestions for fun dates that are somewhat out of the box?